Young children and breakups

I am not yet lucky enough to have children of my own, and unfortunately my only sister moved interstate a couple of years ago so I don’t get to see my niece and nephew as much as I would like. So when my husband and I separated earlier this year, it was up to my sister and her husband to explain to the children that Uncle Glen doesn’t live here any more.

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Toxic people, and my own naivety

Last night I was feeling pretty alone and melancholy. I was thinking about those long-term friends I’d lost following the separation from my husband. One, in particular, stings. Today, I was trying to figure out why it hurts so much. After all, when I think back on our friendship since we were 8 years old, M wasn’t exactly a very good friend to me. In fact, if it weren’t for my naivety and capacity to forgive, we wouldn’t have stayed friends as long as we did. Sometimes I think back to all those things I forgave and get mad at myself for being so stupid. My mother always told me I am too trusting. I know in myself that one of my major faults is wanting to be liked. I guess those things combined lead to this toxic friendship lasting as long as it did.

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